Friday, April 15, 2011

Prevent the Heartache - FCKH8 Blog Train

Mystery Freight

Back when I was growing up, things were different. Bullying was an accepted part of growing up and you were expected to deal with it on your own. Only "sissies" & "crybabies" complained to the adults. And when I was in high school, most of the gay kids were accepted. It was a slightly different moral situation then, as glam rock had become big and being gay or bisexual was "cool" in certain circle. While most of the gay kids weren't overly obvious about their inclinations, most of the kids in high school knew who was who and if you didn't like the queer kids, you left them alone.

That was then. Bullying has become some a lot more dark and dangerous these days. Back in the 70's, you could still get away from the bullying when you weren't in school. Now however, it follows you - on social networks, on you cell phones, on your computer. The harassing never stops and hidden behind the sort of anonymity that being online allows, it's gotten a lot nastier. Kids that wouldn't have been cruel your face are more than happy to come after you cyberneticly. So perhaps it's not surprising that the suicide rate among kids who are being bullied has risen dramatically. Current statistics show that 17 kids are taking their own lives EVERY DAY, because of bullying - some of them as young as 11 years old.

While being gay has become somewhat more acceptable on a large scale, the hate has turned up as well. Fueled by the Aids pandemic of the mid-80s and early-90s, more and more people are taking out their homophobia on the gay community, and more so among the kids. Anyone who is different becomes a target for bullying, so the homophobic population of schools and churches naturally vent their hate on the gay kids - and it's not right. They can't help what they are.

Being gay is not a part of your upbringing, as some people think. It's natural, you're just born that way. And yes, it does happen IN NATURE, so anyone who tells you being gay is not natural is ill-informed - or perhaps just a hater.

The Prevent the Heartache blog train is being presented to help raise awareness of bullying amongst gay teens. While any statistics regarding how many teen suicides happen because of a child's sexual orientation (Without accurate numbers on how many gay teens there are, any estimate about their suicide rate is little more than a guess), it is believed that Gay and Lesbian teens are two to three times more likely to be bullied than their heterosexual counterparts.

Some signs of suicidal behavior include:
increased isolation
substance abuse
self-deprecating attitudes
expressions of hopelessness
irregular behavior
signs of depression
suicidal thoughts or feelings
giving away of valued personal belongings

These thoughts and behaviors can be triggered by emotional trauma, like bullying or rejection, but suicide prevention is possible.

If you believe your teen, or a teen you may know is suicidal, intervention is absolutely necessary. Don't turn your back and believe that they will work it out for themselves. What you might have gone through in your youth is nothing compared to what kids are going through today.

Okay, enough of the public service portion of this post, you want you freebie, I know. This Anti-Hate themed digital taggers kit was created in support of FCKH8. Please visit their site to find out more about how you can support the FCKH8 campaign.

Please remember that by downloading this kit you agree to my terms of use which state, in part that that that you cannot redistribute, rebroadcast, resale, or claim my graphics as your own. That means placing this kit on 4Shared, RapidShare or any other file sharing site for any reason is a strict NO-NO! That constitutes redistribution.

If you know someone who is interested in this kit, please direct them to my blog where they can download their own copy. Free to use is NOT the same thing as free to share. My graphics are copyright protected.

Prevent the Heartache

To download this kit from Mediafire, click HERE.
The password is "H8rs_Suck" - no quotes

If you enjoyed this freebie, please take a moment to vote for Digi!

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Also be sure to visit the rest of the stops in the Prevent the Heartache train. And if you download, be sure to leave a thank you. Your thanks are the fuel that keep these blog trains running!

Lisa with: Arty-Pharty
Annette with: AW Design
Chantal with: ADM Scraps
Deanna with: Butterfly Kisses Scraps
Jill with: Created By Jill Scraps
Stuart with: Creative Crazy Scraps
Daniela with: Dark Moon's Dream
Dianna with: Digicats (& Dogs)
Miriam with: Ellanoir
Holly with: Freek’s Creations
Jessica with: Gothic Inspirations
Lee with: Midnight Music Words
Victoria with: Maitri Scraps
Pam with: pamkez
Shelle with: Shellez Creations
Kara with: Sweet Cravings Scraps
Stef with: Stef’s Scrapkits
Tracey with: Tracey’s Tags and Treasures
Sue with: Wicked Creationz

Thanks for stoping by and enjoy your ride on the Prevent the Heartache blog train!



Omneya's World said...
Completely stupified and amazed that you have done this cause and not only that, you have done your homework on it too!!!
Also the kids can't get a break even at home.
can you imagine being bullied everywhere...even home!!!
thank you so much!!!!!!!

Gothic Inspirations said...

Thank you so much for taking part Dianna! You've got a great share. And Omn is right you did your homework. ;) Xox Jess

Shannon said...

Thank you for sharing! And thanks for the background information. Wonderful job

Cheekylala said...

Great job Dianna! Thank you for sharing! :)

Cosmictadpole said...

Wow, thank you so much for the well thought out explanation of this problem and your desire to bring awareness to it! I also love the kit you created in support of it. Well done! And thank you for sharing :)

Tracey said...

Thank you so much for this kit.


I have just started this digital scrapping fun. I never realized the wonderful talented folks who share their gifts with us. Thank you. I also love the words in your blog. People are born this way. My beautiful daughter just "came out" and I support her wholeheartedly. I wish she told me sooner - to spare her the severe anxiety she put on herself. She now knows her dad and I truly support her and more parents and others need to realize, this is whom they are. They are wonderful, beautiful people who deserve respect, just like everyone else. Sorry for rambling on, you are probably thinking, TMI lady. :-)
Thanks again for this beautiful kit.